5 Podcasts I Recommend to my Couples

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I’m a podcast junkie. These days, most of my conversations start with, “I was listening to this one podcast and…” I can’t help it! I love a good conversation and I am always excited to learn something new. Plus, the audio format is the perfect way to consume media while I’m traveling to weddings or editing images!

If you’re also a podcast-lover and in the wedding-planning stages - here are five amazing podcasts you’ll want to download right-friggin-now!

1. For some major giggles: The Secret Life of Weddings

This is one of the first podcasts I ever listened to! “SLOW” is all about getting a good laugh out of other’s misfortune. If that sounds harsh, well sometimes it is! But mostly it’s an amazing way to blow off steam through the realization that whatever you’re stressing about in regards to your own wedding, really isn’t so bad! Hosted by two Canadian wedding photographers, this show rehashes other peoples’ wedding-day horror stories much to the delight of drama-thirsty listeners. As a wedding vendor, I find these stories laugh-until-you-cry funny with the added relief that nothing I’ve ever experienced has been that dang bad! Here’s a taste.

2. For sound advice: Bridechilla

Aleisha is your best friend who is not afraid to tell it like it is and encourage you to question tradition by tossing anything that doesn’t work for you, in the “fuck it bucket”. She tackles unique wedding-related topics such as ‘how to handle a wedding as a person with social anxiety’ (Episode 379) and understanding that you can ‘stop saying yes to shit you hate’ (Episode 299). There’s also a Bridechilla Facebook group and some amazing physical books. This podcast is especially refreshing to me because Aleisha subscribes to the same idea I do. Your wedding day is about YOU and you only and everything else is negotiable!

3. To put the focus back on your relationship: Where Should We Begin? with Ester Perel

The wedding-day is the beginning of your marriage, is it not? Sometimes people get so lost in planning their big day that they forget to spend time focusing on their partner and their relationship. Ester Perel is a The episodes are real, recorded conversations she has had with couples which can help you bring up potential sticking points in your relationship as it is currently or in the future.

4. For answers to wedding planning specifics: The Big Wedding Planning Podcast

How about a straight-forward wedding podcast that guides you, answers your questions, but also isn’t dead boring? Christy and Michelle are two long-time wedding planners. They cover everything from building your budget to building your wedding day timeline. You can also share episodes with your wedding party if they’re struggling to write a toast! They always make sure to include personal anecdotes and fresh perspectives for up-to-date advice! The titles on their episode make it super easy to pick and choose your episodes!

5. Staying modern in your planning: Put a Ring on It

Another podcast hosted by two wedding photographers! Since their profession allows them to get behind the scenes and experience every part of wedding days, they have been able to distill-down what they see and think into super easy to follow explanations and advice! Dan and Danielle are all about being intentional when planning your wedding and questioning doing things ‘just because.‘ I’d recommend starting with “Ten Things Your Guests Won’t Care About” and “Four Fundamentals for Hosting a Great Event”

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If you’re a DSP couple and looking for more advice, shoot me a text email or call! I’m always so happy to give you personal a specialized advice!

Danielle

Dana and Jason - Zion National Park Elopement

It's been a dream of mine to both travel to Zion National Park and shoot a spectacular elopement in the western US.  When Dana and Jason let me in on their secret plans to have their actual wedding on a mountaintop in Zion before returning home for the celebration I was SO. THERE. 

Dana and Jason have such sweet souls.  They're adventurous yet uncomplicated.  They let their love and dreams take the lead and everything else follows.  Witnessing their union was an absolute honor!

I could gush all day about them but I'll cut myself off and just go ahead with the magic...   

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Behind The Scenes

How To Construct a Killer Wedding-Day Timeline

During wedding planning, you'll be faced with many questions you hadn't anticipated answering. 

One of the more intimidating question marks comes in the form of timing. Vendors, Guests, Attendants; Everyone needs to know what time you need them, where, and for how long. 

You can get away with estimating for a while, but you'd probably be a lot happier putting that guesswork to rest! 

One of my favorite things to do for my couples is work-out a timeline. 

It's the perfect way to visualize your full day, not to mention, an amazing reference tool during planning.  This is a service I provide to my couples and potential couples.  If you'd like to let me do the heavy-lifting, give me a shout! If not, I have outlined a bonkers-good how-to below.

         Step 1) Discuss a traditional timeline               vs a ‘first- look’ timeline.

TRADITIONAL - Your traditional timeline is based on the idea that the couple getting married will not see each other until the ceremony. This timeline is ideal for those who are steadfast in their views and do not mind sacrificing attending their cocktail hour (you do all your portraits during cocktail hour) to maintain that vision.

FIRST LOOK - A ‘First Look’ is a moment where you and your fiance will see each other a few hours before you’re getting married.

Photographers are in love with the ‘first look’ for many reasons. So many reasons, in fact, that I am working on another full blog post about it.

As it pertains to your timeline, the first look occurs about 1.5 hours before the ceremony and gives you plenty of time to achieve gorgeous, un-rushed portraits which will leave you to enjoy your cocktail hour after your ceremony!

HAVE YOUR FREAKIN CAKE AND EAT IT TOO - Ok, so you read all the ways the ‘First Look’ will ease anxiety and lengthen your day and you’re wishing there was some kind of compromise.  Well, there actually are TWO.

I call one, the ‘First Tease’.  It’s a way of designing your poses so that the couple can have beautiful photos together before the ceremony all without seeing each-other.  You may have seen couples do this by wearing blindfolds or holding hands on either side of a structure. The ‘First Tease’ is a highly controlled way of posing the two of you with your wedding party to get lots of portraits done all without a single peek!  (Side note: Not every photographer will be up for this option due to timeline, location, or other constraints! Discuss it thoroughly before proceeding!) This option will begin about 1.5 hours before your ceremony to ensure lots of relaxed portraits with the bonus of making it to your cocktail hour.

Your second option is a ‘gap’. As in, you get married and then plan 1-2 hour gap, at which time your guests must find a way to occupy themselves while you do your photos. I’ve been a guest at a wedding that was structured this way and I didn’t find it inconvenient.  Although, I must say I almost fell asleep while waiting back at the hotel. For example:

Gap Timeline

3-4pm Ceremony

4-4:15pm Family Photos

4:15-4:30 Travel

4:30-6pm Portraits

6pm Cocktail Hour Starts

This option doesn’t work so great if you’re having everything in the same place, as your guests would have nowhere to go.

Step 2) Start with your ceremony time.

Alright, you know how you want to structure your day (First Look, First Tease, Traditional, or Traditional with a Gap). You are now ready to start your timeline.  When is your ceremony scheduled?  Write it down.

That was easy, right?  Before moving forward, I do want to let you in two secrets.  Your ceremony time dictates your whole day so you absolutely have to know these two things before setting it in stone (or in gold lettered $5 invitations):

1. When is the sun setting on your wedding day?  This is a big deal because, if you’re going with a timeline where your photos are after your ceremony - you have to make sure the sun will still be up!  A good photographer can get amazing photos no matter what BUT if your vision was, bright outdoor photos, you’ll want to do yourself a favor, right now, and google “sunset time” and “your date”. You have to have your posed photos done by sunset if you don’t want to be plunged into darkness.

2. How long is your ceremony going to be?  Your officiant should know, but for the sake of finishing the timeline, I have a little cheat sheet for you.

Non-Denominational Officiant/Celebrant - 15 minutes

Pastor/Priest/Rabbi but No Church Service - 30 minutes

In a Church with a Church Service - 1 hour

So, now that you've made sure all your natural light portraits will be achieved before sunset and you have your approximate start and end time of your ceremony!  Yay, progress!

Step 3) Begin building off your ceremony timing. (Examples)

This section is best explained with examples. Starting with a hypothetical ceremony starting at 3PM, I've built out the hour before and the hour after with example timelines that follow a standard photo procedure:

Example #1: Alright, you’ve decided on a traditional timeline with an outdoor ceremony and your favorite pastor.  Here is what that will start to look like:

2pm Finish Getting Dressed and Do Some Shots of Bride(s)/Groom(s) alone and with their attendants

2:30pm Travel to Ceremony Location

2:45pm Arrive at Ceremony Location

3-3:30pm Ceremony

3:30-3:45pm Family Photos

3:45-5:30pm Couple and Wedding Party Portraits (During Cocktail Hour)

How about another example?

Example #2: You’ve decided on a ‘first look’ with an in-church wedding featuring a full mass. Here is what that might look like:

1pm Finish Getting Dressed

1:15pm First Look

1:20pm Couple Photos

2pm Wedding Party Photos

2:30pm Leave Photo Location

2:45pm Arrive at Church

3-4pm Ceremony

4-4:15pm Family Photos

4:15-4:30pm Travel to Venue

4:30-5:30pm Attend Cocktail Hour

Step 4) Factoring in travel time.

You may have noticed that I have 15 minutes of travel time built into the example schedules above.

Do you know how long it will take for you to travel to and from your various locations? 

Find out.  You absolutely cannot forget to factor it in!

When everything is said and done, you may have thought you budgeted 1 hour for portraits but you only have 20 minutes thanks to travel.

When I build timelines for my clients, I factor in travel time AND an extra 5-10 minutes per section of time because we're all human and sometimes need to pee!

Is this feeling really overwhelming?  Consider that I have had YEARS of experience to perfect this process, and it's still not perfect!  If you're interested in my services for your wedding day, call it quits and let me do the work for you.  Contact me now.

Step 5) Do have any of the following unique additions?

1) Receiving Line - A receiving line can occur at the end of a wedding ceremony.  The just-married couple stands at the exit and greets every guest as they leave. It’s a nice way to make sure you personally thank all of your attendees, but it takes FOREVER. (Just being real with you.)  Here’s a handy chart to determine how long your receiving line will take:

20-40 Guests - 10 minutes

40-80 Guests - 15 minutes

80-120 Guests - 20-25 minutes

120-180 Guests - 25-30 minutes

180-250 Guests - 35-40 minutes

If you don't factor in sufficient time to great your guests, you could find all of the time you had allotted for photos gone.  Then, you'd have to make the not-so-fun decision of delaying your party or having only 5 minutes with your photographer (who you probably paid good money so you could have those stunning portraits in addition to candids). 

2) A Wedding Party Larger than 25 people - Larger groups of people take longer to corral.  Factor in a few extra minutes for travel and portraits for larger groups.

3) Ketubah Signing - Most Jewish couples opt for a ‘First Look’ because they come together before their ceremony to sign their Ketubah.  The Rabbi will let you know how long this may take but it’s typically 20-30 minutes and occurs right before your ceremony. It is also traditional in Jewish ceremonies to have 10 minutes of seclusion immediately following your ceremony - This can eat into your cocktail hour time and make organizing family photos difficult, so plan accordingly!

4) More than 15-20 groupings for family photos - Most people keep their family photos to a minimum after the ceremony, featuring just immediate family, spouses, children and grandparents.  If you want to include extended family in your post-ceremony photos - your family photos are going to go from 15 minutes to 30 minutes. (A way around this is by organizing large family/group photos during your reception with your photographer).

5) Multiple Photography Locations - More locations, more travel, more time...and where will you and your photographers park?

Ready to power forward?

Step 6) How much coverage do you want before your ceremony?  

I love shooting the getting-ready portion of the day because it sets the stage for your story. At minimum, I like to arrive 1.5 hours before you're scheduled to be ready to go!  This gives me enough time to capture candids and details.  I'd never say no to more time, though!

At this point, I'll bring down one of sample timelines and add on to the beginning:

11:00am Photographer Arrives

12:30pm Finish Getting Dressed

12:45-1pm Travel to Photo Location

1:15pm First Look

1:20pm Couple Photos

2pm Wedding Party Photos

2:30pm Leave Photo Location

2:45pm Arrive at Church

3-4pm Ceremony

4-4:15pm Family Photos

4:15-4:30pm Travel to Venue

4:30-5:30pm Attend Cocktail Hour

Step 7) Finally! How much coverage do you want after your ceremony?

For reception/party coverage, I have a little suggestion that most of my couples LOVE.  Have you photographer stay until an hour before the end of the night, rather than all night.  It saves you a smidge of money and saves your photographer from taking endless amounts of similar dance-floor photos.  

You, by no means, have to take this advice.  Especially if you and your crew are known, party-all-nighters and you want that captured!

Conversely, work with your DJ and caterer to set up a reception timeline to ensure you don't dismiss your photographer too early (like before dancing even gets under-way)!  I'll added to the example timeline so you can see just what I mean!

11:00am Photographer Arrives

12:30pm Finish Getting Dressed

12:45-1pm Travel to Photo Location

1:15pm First Look

1:20pm Couple Photos

2pm Wedding Party Photos

2:30pm Leave Photo Location

2:45pm Arrive at Church

3-4pm Ceremony

4-4:15pm Family Photos

4:15-4:30pm Travel to Venue

4:30-5:30pm Attend Cocktail Hour

5:30pm Reception Starts

Introductions

First Dance

Toasts

6-7pm Dinner

7pm Parent Dances

Dance Floor Opens Up

8pm Cake Cutting

Bouquet Toss

8:30pm Dancing Gets Underway

9:15pm Night Photos with your Photographer

9:30pm Photographer Leaves

How did you do?  Are you losing it right now?  I sincerely apologize if you are.  This is something I do on a daily basis so it is second nature to me. 

If you're interested in doing me the honor of letting me rock your wedding day photos then grab your pen and paper, throw it out the window and drop me a line!

From the bottom of my heart, I wish you the best of luck in planning your big day! Take some relief in knowing that the purpose of all this planning is so that you can be 100% present and joyous when you're marrying the love of your life and celebrating with your closest family and friends! 

I swear to you, I did it and I watch people do it over 30 times a year!  It's all worth it.  And, if all else fails, put the work into the hand of a professional!  You won't regret it <3

Danielle

Iceland Summer 2017

What can I say but, "Wow." Visiting and exploring this country was one of the most incredible experiences of natural beauty I have ever witnessed.  We had an amazing time, hiked a ton, ate a ton and Danielle was chased by a sheep.  All in all. 10 out of 10, would do it again.

-Danielle and Peter

Stacey and John - Cape May NJ Beach Engagement Session

Stacey and John took quite the trip to meet me in Cape May on Memorial Day weekend.  After spending this time with them, I learned that this is only the beginning of their trips together.  They'll be tying the knot in Las Vegas, meeting me back in Jersey for a reception and then high-tailing it to Florida!  At any rate, their tenacity to push through the rain with me certainly showed me that they can do anything they put their mind to and it pays off beautifully.

What To Know Before Your Engagement Session

First Step: Deciding When and Where

When choosing the ideal season for your engagement session, you want to first consider if you’d like to use your photos for Save The Dates.  If so, you want to make sure you have your session 8-6 months before the wedding to ensure sufficient time to create, print and mail your cards.

Winter

Chilly, snowy engagement sessions are rarely done therefore always unique!  To balance out the monotone backdrops of gray days, I suggest wearing bright colors or choosing an industrial location with lots of textures to play with.  Pretty twinkly lights are usually in abundance during this season! Obviously, you’ll need to dress quite warm or find a bright, indoor location.

Spring

Pretty, lovely spring.  If you time your session right, you can catch all sorts of blooms. Bluebells and cherry blossoms are just a few of my favorites.

Summer

This is an awesome time to do beach engagement photos! Inland locations provide plenty of greenery and blooms to play with as well. I typically plan our sessions for sunset so that you’re not out at the hottest part of the day but you’ll still want to try avoiding the hottest days of summer.  You simply won’t feel your best in oppressive heat.

Fall

A client favorite for so many reasons!  The weather is typically nice enough to be outside in comfortable fall clothing and the turning leaves provide a stunning backdrop.

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Step Two: Location

Once you pick your season, your location sometimes becomes obvious.  For other times, consider the answers to these questions as potential locations:

1. Where did you meet?

2. Where was your favorite date?

3. Where did you get engaged?

4. What are some of your favorite things to do together?

Do you share a love of water activities?  Let’s head to your favorite lake!  

Do you live out of town?  I am so there!

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Step Three: What To Wear

Most importantly, you'll want to pick something you’re comfortable in.  If a clothing item is uncomfortable or you’re not sure if you like the way it looks, your concerns will read in your expressions.  Always choose something 1) You’re comfortable in. 2) You know looks good on you. 3) That is appropriate for the weather.  Always try your intended outfit on before the shoot!  It doesn’t always look the way you imagined and trying it on will give you enough time to explore other options.

Coordinate but don’t ‘match’. You want to make sure that both of your are wearing clothing that fits well together.  Make sure that one of you is not going formal while the other is going casual.  Additionally, tie your clothing together by choosing one color you can both wear in some capacity.  This helps you appear connected without a ‘matchy’ look.

You can choose to have one outfit change during your engagement session.  Many people like to change to vary the photos with one formal and one casual outfit.  Remember, you’ll need a place to change!

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Step Four: What To Bring

I love an unencumbered photo session.  Sometimes having a bag to worry about can take your mind out of the moment.  But, sometimes, it's best to think ahead and be prepared!

If you’re changing: Remember your second outfit and corresponding accessories.

If it’s cold: Bring along a jacket to bundle up between shots.

Fur Babies: If you’d like to bring along your pup (Or cat, who am I to judge?), do make sure to bring a leash and treats.  Ideally, you’ll also want to bring a friend or family member to watch your fur baby for the shots where we want just the two of you.  You know your pet.  If your pet is the type that may cause trouble with strangers or other pets, you’ll also want ‘an escape plan’ for your pet and sitter.  This could be as easy as having them sit in the car or even coming to the session separately so they can leave if necessary.

Real Babies:  We love when parents include their kiddos in their engagement sessions!  We suggest bringing a babysitter to watch your child for the shots where we want just the two of you.  It’s also nice to have the babysitter come in a separate car in case your child becomes upset or wants to leave.  Then you can have to option of not worrying about them becoming tired or (heaven forbid) full-blown cranky.

Props: Occasionally people like to include ‘props’ in their images.  If you have something in mind, don’t forget it!

Nassie Ties The Knot

When Cassie started her vows, I felt like I got sucked back in time.  Instead of clicking away at her wedding, I was back in high school, sitting diagonally from her as she talked about wanting to be a writer.  If there was ever a time where her writing felt so right, it was when she read those vows to Nat seven years later.  And there I was, shaking the nostalgia out my head to make sure I kept capturing that infectious laugh of hers.

When people say, "Not a dry eye in the house" you may assume they're exaggerating, at least a little bit.  But Cass and Nat's wedding didn't leave one dry eye within a mile radius.  So many happy and meaningful moments were created that day - it's seriously one for the books.

Cass and Nat, I love you guys.  Just going through your photos had me alternatively jumping out of my chair with excitement and tearing up at your love.  In fact, I'm so excited to get you these images, I'm gonna end it here even though I could say so much more.  Enjoy you two.

{Many photos included in this post were taken By my 'shooting partner' Nikki Robinson.}

Paris Revisited

What can I say about Paris that hasn't already been said?  City of lights.  City of love? The city that has captured the hearts and imaginations of so many.  Any love letter I could write would surely fall short of describing it's true beauty.  All I know is we're in love and the second date was even better than the first.

In my efforts to keep my photography skills fresh, I often put way too much stress on myself to get great photos (especially in an amazing place like Paris). So, I made a concerted effort on this trip to practice "casual" photography. I can't say I didn't still stress, but I got to have fun with composition, editing, and juxtaposition.  A lot of these photos aren't the same editing style, feature tourist photobombers, and weren't taken in remotely the same place as the ones I collaged them with.  And there's a kind of freedom in that, which takes me back to being on vacation in the greatest city on earth.

"You know, I sometimes think, how is anyone ever gonna come up with a book, or a painting, or a symphony, or a sculpture that can compete with a great city. You can't. Because you look around and every street, every boulevard, is its own special art form and when you think that in the cold, violent, meaningless universe that Paris exists, these lights, I mean come on, there's nothing happening on Jupiter or Neptune, but from way out in space you can see these lights, the cafés, people drinking and singing. For all we know, Paris is the hottest spot in the universe." - Midnight in Paris

Cape May Winery Styled Shoot

Finding ourselves all in the wedding industry, my two sisters-in-law and I got together on dreaming up this "Styled Shoot."  Our inspiration was our love for the blush and gray color palette and our hope to showcase each of our individual talents. Cape May Winery in NJ graciously played host to our session. 

Vendors:

• Location - Cape May Winery, Cape May NJ (Not a wedding venue.)
• Photography - Danielle Salerno Photography
• Hair and Makeup - Laura Keating Beauty
• Floral and Design - Anastasia Salerno Event Design
• Dresses - Sweet Caroline Styles
• Jewelry and Watches - Bernie Robbins 
• Doughnuts - Frog Hollow Bakery, Greenfield NJ
• Invitation Suite - Julie Hanan Design

Although Cape May Winery is not a wedding venue, they're excellent hosts!  Look into stopping there for your bachelor or bachelorette party, purchasing wine for your event, or simply as a great day-trip!

Arielle

When I envisioned this session with my longtime friend, my only real goal was to let her personality shine.  Arielle is constantly being described as radiant, full-of-love, and a blessing to all who know her.  I knew that I could just have some fun with her and capture that wonderful spirit.  With the secondary goal of creating yoga images for her professional use - I give you the essense of a person I couldn't imagine life without (even if she's far away and just in my heart).

--------- Olivia ---------- {South Jersey Portrait Photographer, South Jersey Senior Portrait Photographer}

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All Photos are Property of Danielle Salerno Photography and may not be used or reproduced without written consent.  All Photos were taken by Danielle Salerno.

----- Paris Je T'aime ----- {Travel Photographer, Destination Photographer}

I'm never at a loss for words when it comes to the beauty we experienced in Paris and Nice, France.  This trip was dream come true, filled with inspirational and serendipitous moments.  We'd love nothing more than to return again and again.    

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All photos are property of Danielle Salerno Photography and are not to be used or reproduced without written permission. All photos taken by Danielle and Peter Salerno.